tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post5726341502859223920..comments2023-05-21T09:46:36.566-04:00Comments on A Blob of Something Different: The Big BUTSomething Differenthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17225114844104235510noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-86233661202227116112009-11-24T14:22:27.368-05:002009-11-24T14:22:27.368-05:00I really like the mashal of how some people shlep ...I really like the mashal of how some people shlep their package in a clear garbage bag and others hide it in a black garbage bag...that's so true. You never know what is going on by the next person...<br /><br />Anyway, this post is one of those ones that make you lol and if it weren't so true I would be able to laugh about it! So many times, shidduchim are redt because two people have one thing in common and nothing else - whether it is age, background, went through the same one thing...the rest of it doesn't have to make any sense but as long as it's a boy and girl, pants and skirt, people assume they can just put them together! <br /><br />And everyone has their own BUT, some of them everyone knows about and others, well, they cover it well in that thick black garbage bag...<br /><br />Can't wait to meet your DPC - he's definitely one lucky guy if he gets you!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-27788601993436446782009-03-22T16:24:00.000-04:002009-03-22T16:24:00.000-04:00Yeah, I have issues with the perception of other p...Yeah, I have issues with the perception of other people, too.<BR/><BR/>But as long as you marry the right person and are happy, who cares what they think? <BR/><BR/>Glad to hear that I was an inspiration. :)chaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14023083898665410736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-55601730535672835372009-03-22T00:49:00.000-04:002009-03-22T00:49:00.000-04:00Chanie- I agree with you one hundred percent. I am...Chanie- I agree with you one hundred percent. I am very cool with The Big But. My problem is the perceptions of the general population..<BR/>Oh yeah and I can think of lots more reasons that I am thrilled to have diabetes....you just gave me a post idea... ;)Something Differenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17225114844104235510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-64560855760669732782009-03-21T23:49:00.000-04:002009-03-21T23:49:00.000-04:00There's a "but" in every shidduch- the question is...There's a "but" in every shidduch- the question is only what you're willing to let it be.<BR/><BR/>He's from a nice family...but...the parents can't help you financially. He's a serious eved Hashem...but...a few of his brothers dropped off the derech...and...his parents are divorced...but (good but)...he has xyz as his rabbanim.<BR/><BR/>Or, he's a great guy and serious and loyal etc, etc, and doesn't care so much about chitzonius and would learn all day and teach little kinderlach alef-bet if he could...but...he has xyz disorder, except that it's nearly 100% controlled by medication, which he takes, and only a tendency- not the actual disorder- gets passed genetically.<BR/><BR/>Whatever, you get the picture. There's a but in every shidduch. The issue is: Will the "but" be his middot <I>(he has a temper and flies into fits of rage, or he's a perfectionist and demands the same of his wife, or he's needy, etc.)</I>, or will the "but" be physical <I>(he's not so smart, he's not so handsome, he has xyz disorder, he's short, he has allergies, etc.)</I>. <BR/><BR/>Now, personally, I'd rather know that the issues aren't the guy's own fault, and that he has a heart of gold (read: guilt pains [for years] after killing a cockroach that was bothering a kid), than to know that he's the best bochur and is gaavadik or abusive.<BR/><BR/>Take your pick- no one's 100%. It's actually good you've got diabetes- the guys who will date you are less chitzonius-oriented. :)chaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14023083898665410736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-88062475506538800902008-12-22T20:18:00.000-05:002008-12-22T20:18:00.000-05:00No those conversations were pretty much hypothetic...No those conversations were pretty much hypothetical. Nobody has redt me anything yet..;)Something Differenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17225114844104235510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-50464162609894123892008-12-22T17:00:00.000-05:002008-12-22T17:00:00.000-05:00wowwwww i cant believe ur mother actually has thos...wowwwww i cant believe ur mother actually has those convos with ppl!!!! i would just hang up. ppl have such a chutzpah!<BR/>(im getting angry for you lol)EsPeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12181641164877461141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-77468416123340640442008-12-18T17:30:00.000-05:002008-12-18T17:30:00.000-05:00HS- firstly I realized that I didn't respond to pa...HS- firstly I realized that I didn't respond to part of your first comment. Um...I don't go thru nothin. I'm still waiting for a shiduch to be redt for me... :-P<BR/><BR/>As far as your other comment- you gave me the idea fir my next post but I can't write it till my eyes are fully open which won't happen till I have coffee which won't happen till my mom gets home with the car so I can go buy some unspoiled milk. In short...not now...LOLSomething Differenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17225114844104235510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-56015588368032031872008-12-18T13:42:00.000-05:002008-12-18T13:42:00.000-05:00First, I'm pretty much in the dark as to how it wo...First, I'm pretty much in the dark as to how it would affect him in the long run. I would want to hear all the details and then decide.<BR/>Also, it would be very important to me to know how it affected his character. If his middos were not bettered by the challenge and his view of people and life are the same, no, I probably would not consider it.halfsharedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08897983346646333294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-17115766887424792092008-12-18T13:34:00.000-05:002008-12-18T13:34:00.000-05:00Anon-I guess he has to be or I wouldn't marry him!...Anon-I guess he has to be or I wouldn't marry him!<BR/><BR/>HS-Right, but there are buts and there are buts....Answer me HONESTLY (no I won't be offended...) Would you marry a boy with type 1 diabetes? (JC-just curous)Something Differenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17225114844104235510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-22098401472837197652008-12-18T10:21:00.000-05:002008-12-18T10:21:00.000-05:00I'm sorry that you have to go through that. If it'...I'm sorry that you have to go through that. If it's any comfort to you, I don't think I went on any dates before I was 20 or 21. And then I waited another year until I had my next one. And then another year..and then things picked up..and died down. And I'm still single quite a few dates later. I hope that your first boy is the right one for you. Dating isn't fun or easy.<BR/>And also, although B'h I'm healthy and all, I am much more inclined to be interested in a boy with a "but" than a boy who has lived on Easy Street all his life.halfsharedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08897983346646333294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-74232516576493579752008-12-17T22:14:00.000-05:002008-12-17T22:14:00.000-05:00He most definitely will be!He most definitely will be!anon#1https://www.blogger.com/profile/18135271347068124730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-34288106893035987892008-12-17T09:24:00.000-05:002008-12-17T09:24:00.000-05:00Anon-sort of. My reply is WAY too long-I'll post i...Anon-sort of. My reply is WAY too long-I'll post it as a new post soon. <BR/>What about DPC? Think he'll be worth the wait?? LolSomething Differenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17225114844104235510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-26740681127682173042008-12-17T01:29:00.000-05:002008-12-17T01:29:00.000-05:00Come on, SD, you don't want a typical boy. You wa...Come on, SD, you don't want a typical boy. You want a boy with a BUT, a boy that knows how to deal with what life throws at him. Am I correct?<BR/><BR/>I know this shidduch business is not easy, and the comments that people say can be quite nasty. Just keep remembering that you're worth waiting for!anon#1https://www.blogger.com/profile/18135271347068124730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-2346867099278651612008-12-16T15:49:00.000-05:002008-12-16T15:49:00.000-05:00Why not? I surprise myself sometimes. Don't forget...Why not? I surprise myself sometimes. Don't forget this is hypothetical because I am not in shiduchim yet... ;)<BR/><BR/>Btw-I wrote a post explaining the layout- called my kind of humor.Something Differenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17225114844104235510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776004322644714661.post-91614955449255208722008-12-16T10:51:00.000-05:002008-12-16T10:51:00.000-05:00can't say this post was a shock! lolbtw i just not...can't say this post was a shock! lol<BR/><BR/>btw i just noticed the background on your blog- very appropriate loltembowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02041219202486067572noreply@blogger.com