Thursday, April 29, 2010

What Are You Davening For?

It was my boss who pointed out that I should make sure to get to the kever of rebbe Meir Baal Haneis on his yartzeit. "He promised to intercede on behalf of those who daven at his kever...on his yartzeit especially! Your teffilos will really be answered!"

"Sounds nice," I agreed.

"I guess we'll be planning a wedding pretty soon," was her inference.

"Er."

Her tone then went mournful. "And I will need to find someone to replace you."

I didn't like it. "Can I ask you a question?"

She nodded.

"How do you know what I'm davening for?" I inquired.

"We-ell," she started. "I just figured that your single, you must be looking to get married, it's a safe bet, isn't it?"

Somehow, I feel like she is invading my privacy. How is it her business? Would she have told someone who has been married for a number of years without children that they should now begin looking at maternity clothes?

Why is a single person considered a "community problem?" Heck, I don't get why it is considered a problem all together! But for real, how would you respond to a statement like that?

Oh, and FYI, I did daven at the kever of R' Meir Baal Haneis yesterday, on his yartzeit. (It was amazing, by the way.) If my boss is right, you'll all be hearing about an engagement pretty soon. ;-)

Oh, and Israel is awesome. I'd show off some pictures but the wifi here is so slow I can't upload anything. I'll post em when I find some decent wifi...

8 comments:

Bz said...

Truth is, they all mean well. Whenever someone tells me "imy"h by you" I just say Amen. That usually stops them from saying anything awkward. If they do... like "there must be someone out there for you.." then I just say... oh I'm sure there is - here's what I'm looking for... This way you give them a sense of an obligation to now actually do something about it, and actually set you up. :-D

Mystery Woman said...

She meant well. Single women..or married women with no kids...become very sensitive over time. That's understandable. But, for the most part, people mean well. Sounds like she really wants you to be happy, and doesn't realize you'd see it as interfering.

harry-er than them all said...

because being single is apparently the only thing wrong in single people's lives.

nmf #7 said...

Oooh- you're in Israel! Come visit! (drop me an email...)
And, well, I agree with MW- she meant well. It was rather not so bad a comment- she hesitated, knowing that it might possibly hit the wrong note.

Keels said...

So, when's the meet-up? Or did you leave already?

David_on_the_Lake said...

I'm so jealous. I wish I could be there.
And that's such typical Jewish meddling and yentaing..I cant stand it.

Mushkie said...

Don't worry, my little brothers are constantly offering me shidduchim :) they think i'm getting old.

Now that you've been there, are you less annoyed at your boss?

Something Different said...

I know she meant well, but it still aggravated me. I didn't mean that I was angry or anything, just enough for a thought provoking post...

Keels- Sorry, I got that post while in the airport...lol. I would have loved to meet everyone...