BigChamor21 presented me with a question:
"What do you think is harder, waiting for a red light or being a red light?"
I'll confess, when I first read the question, I misunderstood. I thought she meant it in regards to driving, which made no sense. I mean, a red light is an inanimate object, and probably never realized that there is a better existence out there.
Then I realized. She was referring to MP and me. Or perhaps she meant the question in general. Who has a harder time of things, the older sister, who is holding someone up, or the younger sister, who is being held up.
I don't think I'm qualified to give a broad answer on this topic. I mean, I haven't conducted an exhaustive study on inter-sister relationships. My hypothesis though, is that it would be different in each case. (Brave guess, huh?)
Take MP and SD. I think I am more chilled out about not being in shidduchim than anyone you've ever met. Don't get me wrong. I am dying to get married, beyond what I can describe. But I see this time as a blessing. I mean, I'll get married when the time is right, so isn't it nice not to have to spend the meantime in shidduchim? Think: no meetings with shadchanim, no pressure to go out and be seen, no fear over who will see me and how I look and.... Cool, isn't it? Not to mention, MP is really helping me by warding off the hoards of NS and WMS ready to swoop down on me and attempt to make me depressed. (As if!)
So I'm chilled. I'll get married. No point in worrying.
On the flip side, MP has every reason to be worried. Those of you who took the BOSD Road Rage Quiz may have surmised that I'm the type of person who wouldn't mind running a red light or two. So you can imagine her anxiety. I might run a red, and leave her, the lonely red light, swaying in the wind.
So I'd have to say, I think BEING a red light is worse than WAITING for one. But then again, I wouldn't know. I've never been a red light.
What do you think? Anyone out there ever been a red light? Waited for one? Which would you say is worse?